Practical and personal

This book does what I wish Christian writers normally did when they talk about sex - speak the common language, and say it in words that everyone is thinking! Sheet music is very 'to the point', almost too making one blush sometimes, but what it is saying needs to be said - Sex is a gift from God and the state of it in your marriage is a reflection of the state of your marriage! Thanks for being willing to say what needs to be said - I now have a new book to give engaged couples who come for premarital counseling. ^M

totally wrong approach

Is this guy for real???? I mean really...how do so many christians get away with writing stuff that takes them so far away from God. this book, while more graphic than most, really covers a lot of the same problems as so many other christian marriage/family books, sexual or otherwise. it encourages a lot of me-centered thinking. me me me..whats in it for me. I read somewhere that someone interviewed a ton of christian women and they ALL said they could care less if they ever had sex again. somehow I dont think this a)reflects the world at large although perhaps it DOES accurately represent the evangelical world b)reflects "how God made us different". my personal thought on this is that nobody, male or female..likes to be objectified and the more books like this act like men are just totally one dimensional animals who think of nothing but sex, I would guess that women who dont want to be treated as objects will withdraw more and more. I dont think this is a male/female thing so much as a reflection that people who think that sex is thier god given right and their partners job is to meet thier needs tend to marry people who are sensitive to being turned into objects. NO WHERE does Leman mention that the situation could flip flop gender wise but it does. and if someone is feeling like an object, guess what..putting naked polaroids of yourself all over the place will make things worse not better. I feel sorry for Mr Leman in his view of his own gender and his view of women. I might add, although in this book he briefly encourages sexually abused women to get help (and doesent even mention that many men are abused) that he has stated previously that people shouldnt marry someone who was molested because "then there is baggage for the spouse to deal with". poor thing mightnt get his full measure of sex if he married someone who was abused and had baggage they had to work through first. besides, everyone has baggage and his crap just perpetuates the myth that some people are jsut too broken for a normal life. however this IS the man who brought us the birth order witchery...I realize the review should stay on the one book here but all this guys stuff is just SO bad. I thumbed through his books for small children (each one geared fora different "birth order") and nearly gagged...talk about planting ideas in a childs head about how they are "supposed" to be personality wise by their birth order. heaven help the first born that has no ambition..the shame they must feel for being a "bad" first born.

Fantastic!!!

Our marriage is 100x's better than it would have been without this book! Every couple needs to read this one!